Oh well, It seems we have no control what so ever our heart goes to. Everything can change without a warning sign, blinking red lights to stop or a green to go forward. Sometimes it does happen, but it’s already too late for it, ‘cause we're in too deep or we already stopped on the red light too soon and moved on. But deep down, the truth is that we do have the conscience we're stopping something that maybe shouldn't had been stopped or went forward some situation, feelings, whatever is in the table, that we knew we shouldn't have gone.
And that happens ‘cause we're humans, for Christ sake! We do wish for the best, always. We don't wish for the easy stuff. We wish big things, out of reach, ambitious wishes. Childish things that remains, wishes with eyelashes (girly girl stuff...), fountains, stars...We do wish ‘cause every now and then, one of those wishes comes true. It's good to believe that if you truly believe in something, that will for sure, happen. And that's why when we hear the alert, we totally ignore it. Even thought the conscious fight is happening, saying we should re-think, take a time, stop, there's always that side, so called feelings, that pops up in our heads, stomachs, makes we forget about the conscious and only want to do the opposite your rational self told us to..."Why should I? Cause this could go bad? Could not be as I thought".
We're not fearless. We're insecure; we fear the new, feelings, get hurt. So we talk to the ones we love and trust, cause sometimes, they know us better than we do. But please, shall we not be hypocrites? We ask for advice most of the times expecting confirmation for what we already knew that's what we wanted to do. And for sure, most of the times they say exactly the opposite we're expecting. So, we appreciate the advices and sure hear them, try to re-think, but that was only an oral confirmation of what you want and you do not want. As everybody already heard and knew ever since, if advice was good, probably someone would be the richest person in the whole world. So thanks, but no, thanks! (But we'll ask it again and again and again...So be patient!)
When we're taking risks, we get to the point we're half way. And it's normal the feeling of something is not going as expected. And we do want the whole nine yards in life: jobs, love life, friends. Something less than that is not good. Ok, agreed! But, not always. Cause otherwise, life would be a sucky perfect thing with perfect people. And we do know for sure there's no such thing as perfection. Flaws and faults, all the right-wrong, go-not-to-go. So we take our life as an investment, where you put your energy, feelings and know-how and feelings.
And is that right that every time something goes wrong you should go out of the field? Well, if you want a mild life, yes. Do it, but do it fast! If you do want a real life, please, don't treat a risk as an opportunity to get out before it goes bad. The truth is you won't have your initial investment back if you do it. Get an example by the big ones that invest in the action market. If every time they lose something or that one got risky they took all the investment off, they'll sure not be rich and successful as they are today. And it's the same thing...For sure if there's no way, if it sucked all of you, go away, move on and do your best to be energized and filled for the next investment. But if it's not that case, go on! Take risks. Most of times we don't make investments in what we don't believe it'll grow and increase it all. So yes, we definitely should spend all of our energy, thoughts, patience, tears and feelings fighting for our beliefs. It's damm sure that it’s better than regret later for not doing more.
So even when we get panic about something, just attempt to the truth that's only today's battle, not tomorrow's war. Even though it's scary. Once we surrender and say "Ok. I'm done, can't do it anymore", that's the time we forgot why we were fighting in first place. And no, we do not control our lives, we do not control our hearts, although we're always attempting to.
Romance makes our hearts pounds like crazy. And yes, we all got hurt in some point in the past by many jerks and bitches (ok, that was harsh...Not that, only people that, most of times, did not knew how to fight for and gave up too soon or cause maybe that really weren't their battles anymore...), but this thing in trying to be a control freak of our own lives, trying to make their hearts and feelings stable, steady, trying madly to make the heartbeat goes regular it's insane! Hell with it, I want my heart beating so irregular that makes crazy, forget my thoughts and just live my live. I wanna fight, I wanna be crazy, I wanna live, damm it!
There's some battles that results in complete victory, some battles end with a peace offering, and there's the ones that ends up in hope. And that's only the next step to the most frightening one, that's the one we're about to fight for. So hold on, live your life, seize the moment, don't give up, and if you do it, make sure...cause not always we (most likely we do not) have the opportunity to come back in what was left behind and it remained the same as it was before...
quinta-feira, 28 de maio de 2009
Changes. Either we adapt, or we're left behind
In life, there's only one thing we know for sure (apart death and taxes): no matter how hard you try, how good your intentions were, you're gonna hurt people and you're gonna get hurt. And when it happens, the ego-fight-thinking will get into your mind, thoughts and...feelings.
And when it comes, here’s the truth: deep down, everyone believes they can be hardcore.
But what is that? Being hardcore is not about being the strongest people you've ever know, it's not about being tough. We all have this thinking about always being tough when something happens. "Do not let go", "Don't forget, you've already pass through something similar...", "if I forget it, that's gonna happen again"...Yeah, but not being hardcore for once, can open doors and places you've never been for a long time, only if we let the guard down, stop trying to be so tough...
We fear change, it's unknown, strange places, new stuffs, but we can't stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. We all have, in our daily routine, different people, grown and raised with different parents and values. So why should we expect acting as always and staying the same? Denying that we have to change, adapt, grow, it's deny the social living. One of the most amazing (and scary for sure) things about getting to know someone new it's experimenting the new, the expectations about the unknown, the fear of all of it...And with this, we could get to know better about people, about ourselves; get a cup of you and mix with 4 spoons of the other one in a blender and enjoy the new you...Sometimes it seems we're too lazy to learn with our own mistakes. And it bothers, of course...learning there's a few things about ourselves that, even though our friends and relatives got used to, are not good...And it hurts, and got us thinking, cause we've been always acted like this, but if is really hurting someone else, there's definitely something wrong going on. And it’s not easy. But who said life's easy?? It's the learning about our qualities and our faults...And really makes an effort to grow, deal with our own faults and ghosts. Everybody has scars and traumas from old wounds that maybe never really healed, but it does not give us the right to be mean, cruel, harsh, closed minded with the ones we're gather with.
And you know what? It's nonsense to tell that it gets better when we get older. Ok, we've got to the point we're adults. Officially adults. So know we can legally drink, vote, get a real job, start thinking in someone special to build a life together, in other adult activities.
And is expected to be responsible, serious, a real "grown-up". So are we? NOT! We get taller, we get older...But do we ever really grow up?
Well, for sure, in some ways we do...We graduate, start building the so talked future, we get committed, get families, get married, divorced...But, as odd (or not) as it sounds, for most of us, we still have the same problems we did when we were fifteen...No matter how much we grow taller, grow older, we're till forever stumbling, wondering...as a stupid teenager, even though we know how to act, we sure would do better if act different...But in the end, all it comes it's the scary, coward, sassy, stupid, childish 15 year teenage boy/girl you used to know...But now, with a little more conscious that we're being stupid or acting wrong...And now, most likely, we do it cause we wanted to. That's it!
And when it comes, here’s the truth: deep down, everyone believes they can be hardcore.
But what is that? Being hardcore is not about being the strongest people you've ever know, it's not about being tough. We all have this thinking about always being tough when something happens. "Do not let go", "Don't forget, you've already pass through something similar...", "if I forget it, that's gonna happen again"...Yeah, but not being hardcore for once, can open doors and places you've never been for a long time, only if we let the guard down, stop trying to be so tough...
We fear change, it's unknown, strange places, new stuffs, but we can't stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. We all have, in our daily routine, different people, grown and raised with different parents and values. So why should we expect acting as always and staying the same? Denying that we have to change, adapt, grow, it's deny the social living. One of the most amazing (and scary for sure) things about getting to know someone new it's experimenting the new, the expectations about the unknown, the fear of all of it...And with this, we could get to know better about people, about ourselves; get a cup of you and mix with 4 spoons of the other one in a blender and enjoy the new you...Sometimes it seems we're too lazy to learn with our own mistakes. And it bothers, of course...learning there's a few things about ourselves that, even though our friends and relatives got used to, are not good...And it hurts, and got us thinking, cause we've been always acted like this, but if is really hurting someone else, there's definitely something wrong going on. And it’s not easy. But who said life's easy?? It's the learning about our qualities and our faults...And really makes an effort to grow, deal with our own faults and ghosts. Everybody has scars and traumas from old wounds that maybe never really healed, but it does not give us the right to be mean, cruel, harsh, closed minded with the ones we're gather with.
And you know what? It's nonsense to tell that it gets better when we get older. Ok, we've got to the point we're adults. Officially adults. So know we can legally drink, vote, get a real job, start thinking in someone special to build a life together, in other adult activities.
And is expected to be responsible, serious, a real "grown-up". So are we? NOT! We get taller, we get older...But do we ever really grow up?
Well, for sure, in some ways we do...We graduate, start building the so talked future, we get committed, get families, get married, divorced...But, as odd (or not) as it sounds, for most of us, we still have the same problems we did when we were fifteen...No matter how much we grow taller, grow older, we're till forever stumbling, wondering...as a stupid teenager, even though we know how to act, we sure would do better if act different...But in the end, all it comes it's the scary, coward, sassy, stupid, childish 15 year teenage boy/girl you used to know...But now, with a little more conscious that we're being stupid or acting wrong...And now, most likely, we do it cause we wanted to. That's it!
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