Changes. Either we adapt, or we're left behind

In life, there's only one thing we know for sure (apart death and taxes): no matter how hard you try, how good your intentions were, you're gonna hurt people and you're gonna get hurt. And when it happens, the ego-fight-thinking will get into your mind, thoughts and...feelings.
And when it comes, here’s the truth: deep down, everyone believes they can be hardcore.
But what is that? Being hardcore is not about being the strongest people you've ever know, it's not about being tough. We all have this thinking about always being tough when something happens. "Do not let go", "Don't forget, you've already pass through something similar...", "if I forget it, that's gonna happen again"...Yeah, but not being hardcore for once, can open doors and places you've never been for a long time, only if we let the guard down, stop trying to be so tough...
We fear change, it's unknown, strange places, new stuffs, but we can't stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. We all have, in our daily routine, different people, grown and raised with different parents and values. So why should we expect acting as always and staying the same? Denying that we have to change, adapt, grow, it's deny the social living. One of the most amazing (and scary for sure) things about getting to know someone new it's experimenting the new, the expectations about the unknown, the fear of all of it...And with this, we could get to know better about people, about ourselves; get a cup of you and mix with 4 spoons of the other one in a blender and enjoy the new you...Sometimes it seems we're too lazy to learn with our own mistakes. And it bothers, of course...learning there's a few things about ourselves that, even though our friends and relatives got used to, are not good...And it hurts, and got us thinking, cause we've been always acted like this, but if is really hurting someone else, there's definitely something wrong going on. And it’s not easy. But who said life's easy?? It's the learning about our qualities and our faults...And really makes an effort to grow, deal with our own faults and ghosts. Everybody has scars and traumas from old wounds that maybe never really healed, but it does not give us the right to be mean, cruel, harsh, closed minded with the ones we're gather with.
And you know what? It's nonsense to tell that it gets better when we get older. Ok, we've got to the point we're adults. Officially adults. So know we can legally drink, vote, get a real job, start thinking in someone special to build a life together, in other adult activities.
And is expected to be responsible, serious, a real "grown-up". So are we? NOT! We get taller, we get older...But do we ever really grow up?
Well, for sure, in some ways we do...We graduate, start building the so talked future, we get committed, get families, get married, divorced...But, as odd (or not) as it sounds, for most of us, we still have the same problems we did when we were fifteen...No matter how much we grow taller, grow older, we're till forever stumbling, wondering...as a stupid teenager, even though we know how to act, we sure would do better if act different...But in the end, all it comes it's the scary, coward, sassy, stupid, childish 15 year teenage boy/girl you used to know...But now, with a little more conscious that we're being stupid or acting wrong...And now, most likely, we do it cause we wanted to. That's it!